The thought of becoming a single mom has always been a terrifying thought to me. I know it’s possible. I know it’s not the end of the world. But in the plan for my life, single motherhood was not it. I want a partner. I want a two-parent household. My parents are divorced and I very much did not want to repeat history. I didn’t want to be in my eyes a failure. I know now, I am not a failure. Letting go the fear of being a single mom changed everything.
Letting go the fear of being a single mom has gave me a completely new chapter of life
Fear can keep us from moving forward. Fear can keep us from changing. I was fearful of being a single mom. So I didn’t move forward and I didn’t change until I was honest with myself. Being a single mother would make me happier than my relationship. I didn’t want to teach my daughter to stay in a relationship that didn’t make them happy. No one said I had to be a single mother for the rest of my life. The end of a relationship does not mean we cannot be the best parents for our daughter.
I am not alone or a failure.
According to the United States Census Bureau, there are about 7.5 million single mother households. I am not alone. My mother raised me and my two sisters and I think she did an amazing job. I am not a failure nor is any single mom or parent. Marital status does not define success in relation to raising children. Single or not, I am going to be the best mother I can be for my daughter. I am letting go the fear of being a single mom and embracing this new beginning optimistically.