If you’re a parent, when was the last time you went on a vacation without your kids? How about the last time you went on a vacation without your significant other, friends or family? I recently got to take a completely solo vacation and honestly it was one of the best things I could do for myself. It was just me in a hotel all alone for two days. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy vacations with my daughter. I enjoy vacations with friends, family, and significant others. But a solo vacation is all about me and when you have children or a partner, it becomes a shared experience. While it’s not always easy at first, learning how to enjoy a solo kid free vacation.
How to Enjoy A Solo Kid Free Vacation
Prepare yourself, your child, and whoever is taking care of them
I’m not just talking about making sure you’ve packed everything for you and your child/children although make sure you do that too! I also mean prepare yourself and your little one(s) mentally and emotionally. Reminding you and your children that you all are going to be apart can help ease any potential nerves. Making sure the caretakers of your children have everything they need and need to know about you as well as your children is important too.
Limit the check ins
This can be tough. But not checking in can be beneficial. It can give our children the opportunity to increase their independence and confidence of experiencing things without you. Not checking in can also build trust in three different ways. Firstly, you can develop trust with whoever you chose to care for your child. You also develop trust in your child to behave appropriately when you’re not around. Lastly, the child and caretaker have the opportunity to bond and build trust with one another too! While checking in comes from good intentions, they can be a reminder that you’re not there with your child, which may make their stay hard. Consider asking for a daily picture or two from the person watching your child instead or calls in emergencies only.
Let go of the guilt and work
According to an article in the Washington Post, about 54% of US workers feel guilty about taking a vacation even when they have the time to do so. You should not feel guilty for enjoying time without a partner or children. You deserve a vacation. You taking a vacation can be beneficial to everyone. Don’t let anyone tell you different. If you’re a working parent, unplug from your 9-5. Set emails and voicemails to vacation mode. Limit the check ins with your children. Enjoy yourself, by yourself.
Make it worth the trip
Have you ever heard of the saying, “Make it worth the calories?” Essentially, if you’re going to indulge, make sure it’s something you really want. Same thing with taking a solo kid free vacation! Whatever you can afford, make sure it’s worth it to you. So stay in that all inclusive resort or remote cabin by the lakes. Indulge in the fancy new restaurant or enjoy take-out in your room. Explore the art museum or catch up on your favorite show. Whatever you choose to do, aim to leave your vacation 1000% satisfied.
Relax & refresh
You should want to feel relaxed and refreshed when you return home. While we want to make every part of the trip worth our time away, we also don’t want to stress ourselves out by over planning, under planning, or plans not working out. If it’s bringing you stress, let’s consider doing something else. If it doesn’t work out, let’s take a deep breath and let it go. Spend your time relaxing and refreshing yourself. Self-care is the best care.