Sometimes things fall apart so that better things can fall together.

Things in my life have fallen apart. It’s been happening for some time now. In the last month or so, all the things falling have fallen. At this point, I don’t think anything else can fall.

Life is dramatic sometimes. At this point if anything else fell I think I would just take it on the chin. It’s not that I don’t care. But I am trying to give myself a chance to grieve the fallen things in my life so that I can move forward without looking back.

I recently started listening to The Self Love Fix podcast by Beatrice Kamau and a guest on her podcast said something that just struck me.

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

Honestly, it feels like it’s an obvious statement but it’s powerful. Life comes with pain but we don’t have to suffer through it. We don’t have to continue to associate ourselves with negative energy. We can have bad days but we can choose to adjust the next day so we don’t have to experience the same again. I have experienced pain when things in my life have fallen apart. I am choosing not to suffer.

Right now my life transitions are painful. So I am going to take some time to mourn my losses. I am going to cry and feel all my feelings unapologetically. I am going to talk about my fallen things if I wish and when I’m ready. Suffering is not on my agenda. My plan is to move forward.

Right now things have fallen apart so things can fall together.

Despite my fallen things I remind myself of things I do have. My daughter is healthy. I may have fallen but there are plenty of people who have helped soften the fall. I will be ok because I choose to be ok.